Miss Independent

Miss Independent defines both of my daughters, two and five years old. From day one they have the drive to try and do everything on their own. My three year old son, not so much…

Personalities develop from day one. What works for one child may not work for another. I found this out all too well with my son. What worked for his sister did not work for him one bit. His curious nature causes him to explore without realizing the danger.

Once his mind saw a power chord and he wondered will it still work if I cut it? So he got scissors and cut the chord. His sister steered clear of anything unknown and stuck to her toys.

It is simply amazing how early on we can notice our childrens’ own unique personalities. These personalities will define them for the rest of their lives.

How we interact with each other at work or social life as adults starts from day one. Children are faced with situations constantly requiring problem solving and coping with emotions skills. Moms play a very key roll in guiding our children through these interactions.

Personally as I mom I love watching my three children play. The amount of learning they gain from experimenting with toys and through play is incredible! Myfive year old daughter is the imagination queen. I love all the games she comes up with for her and her two siblings to play. However, these ideas never come without their challenges.

For example, the younger two siblings fighting back and forth over a car, crashing into her barbie tent/garage. When the screaming starts I grab popcorn and watch. Just kidding, I wait to see if they can work out the situation on their own first. If we dive right in they will never learn how to swim on their own.

Even as an adult controlling our emotions can be a challenge. The most important thing we can do to help our children is to be there for them; watching and waiting for when they need us to dive in.

A mom’s patience is never tested more than watching our child do a puzzle. Our mouths may coach them explaining, “turn the piece,” but our mind is picturing us walking over, just putting the piece where it goes to speed the process up. However, through patience the outcome is wonderful. Nothing beats seeing the look of excitement on our child’s face when he has finished the puzzle, all on his own!

Always remember moms you are doing great!!! Our job is a full time job on top of our other responsibilities. We all have our good and bad weeks. The fact you are trying and are involved in your child’s life is what truly matters. Your looking up and seeing you watching and being there for them means more to them then we will ever know. Our support helps shape them for the rest of their lives.