Well I am a day late for my mom fail of the week. Sorry if you were looking forward to reading this yesterday. My moms fail of the week is actually the reason for the late post…
For the first time as a mom I feel lost with no idea of how to handle a situation. My two year old daughter truly is extremely sweet and cuddly, but she can not control her temper and when she gets to that point there is no reasoning with her.
I was playing mini doll houses with the kids. My son had a doll, my two year old pulled on it in his hand. She screamed and tried to yank it from his hand. He tells her “Ariah I am playing with this doll, don’t take from hands.” To which she responds by slapping him two times in the chest. I held her hand before she could hit him again. She yanked her hand away from mine and slapped me right in the face.
I know the whole to spank or not to spank debate exists. However, I believe a spank is necessary in certain situations. This being one of them.
I firmly told her, “you do not hit your mom that is absolutely not okay.” I carry her dead weight, shaking, screaming body to her room. I spanked her bottom and told her I love her, but she needs to know hitting her mom is not okay and she needs to remember that. I close her door and tell her we would love for her to play with us when she is ready to play nice and keep her hands to herself.
Next thing I know I hear her door fly open she runs up to me and kicks me right in the back. At this point she is raging, I am raging. I am also speechless. I try to hold her to help comfort her and calm her down. She screamed no and pushed me away. Then her siblings try to hug her to which she responds by hitting again. I set her in my bedroom knowing she needs space to calm down. Still no luck….
As a mom I feel clueless. I have never had troubles calming my children down. It is not safe by any means to put a child safety lock on the inside of her door and if I put a gate up she will just climb it possibly knocking it down hurting herself.
The number of children you have makes no difference because every child is different and what works for one child may not work for another. So for now I am clueless trapped in the difficult trial and error stage.
No mom knows it all and even though I like to think I do, obviously I do not. Normally I have a good head on my shoulders with ideas of what to do, but I am stumped…. Hence my mom fail of the week.
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